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Hide your intentions
Who proceeds carefully, arouses less suspicion
Seducing means not to immediately disclose what one is actually trying to achieve, especially at the beginning. Direct, overhasty and clumsy attempts of approach are not only not seductive but can, in the worst case, be actually repulsive. Too heavy flirting or too direct an approach will quickly demonstrate your intentions to the person of your desire. Once your flirting partner is alerted, all your next moves will be analyzed and evaluated very closely. Being watched that closely it becomes considerably more difficult for you to be in command of the situation and to act in a seductive manner. It is therefore crucial to let the other person maintain the feeling of being in control of the situation, and never to sense any type of “thereat”. Nobody likes the feeling of not being in control of the situation. Uneasiness and distrust start spreading. If this is not taken into consideration and you start flirting wildly regardless of consequences, you don’t need to wonder if all your attempts lead to nothing. Of course, you must show interest at first and draw sufficient attention, but you must never pressure the other person by being too forward in the advances.
In today’s world most people lack endurance and patience. These attributes, however, play a great role in seduction, that wrong judgments in timing can have immense effects. Approach the subject in a more quiet manner as you would otherwise do. First of all, this gives the person the necessary time to process all impressions concerning you, and secondly it enables you to cleverly conceal your true intentions. There is no need to fear that by displaying a somewhat reserved manner you would only succeed in developing a friendship without passion. On the contrary. The faster and more assertively you are trying to seduce a person, the more you are running into danger of encountering refusal. This is a totally natural process which we are all more or less conscious of. We all know the situation when someone is trying to sell us something. The assertiveness of some salespeople arouses suspicion in us. Being pushed into a purchase in such a way we finally react with refusal. We all like to decide for ourselves what we need and when we need it. Most of the time the “No” is already on the tip of our tongue. In addition to this, we know that under pressure we mostly make the wrong decisions, which we regret soon after. Therefore, leave the person you are interested in sufficient space, so that your presence can enfold. This is the only way you can be sure that you have truly seduced your dream partner and not just overwhelmed him/her. Ideally your chosen person is also trying to make points with you and not only the other way around.
During conversation with your chosen person it is best to start with general topics of everyday life.
Subject such as sex or love should not even be considered, since this topic would quickly reveal your true intentions. Try to imagine your dream partner simply as a good friend. This will facilitate communication and association between the pair of you. Try to be relaxed and most of all non assertive. With this mask you look less threatening than your opponents. This will also enable you to automatically establish yourself in the mind of your chosen person. You will be given a chance which may be denied your assertive opponents for good.
Keep in mind that steam-rolling tactics only work for short-lives affairs and are only suitable for people seeking frequent changes of partners than others who are looking for long term commitments. Those people seeking a lasting relationship, must conceal their intentions at the beginning very carefully and skilfully.
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