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Enhance your esteem
How you can increase your esteem in front of others
Every one of us wants to appear desirable and loveable in the eyes of others. We are prepared to do a lot to achieve this and can’t stand it if we are not lavishly admired. To be ignored by others can be the worst social behaviour shown to us. There could be a good reason for this circumstance: Our self-esteem is being hurt. This is inasmuch intolerable, because due to the lack of desire from others, new acquaintances will not consider us sufficiently desirable as well.
Our vanity requires that we possess a person who is desired by others – we even want to take such a desired person away from somebody else. Deep down we all want to be envied for our possessions or partners. The reason is simple: Our prestige and self-esteem increase when we surround ourselves with desired and popular people. Of course, it flatters our vanity if the person of desire is also interested in us and selects us from a number of rivals. It is very hard for us to tolerate when a rival has been preferred. The existence of competition increases our fighting spirit and the desire for the chosen person immensely. This circumstance makes the person irresistible and attractive for us.
If you happen to meet a person who clearly likes you and if you put her between yourself and the person you would like to seduce, you will gain an enormous amount of power. You can intensify this effect by showing off the attention of the admiring person. Boast with your previous conquests to increase your attractiveness even further. Your target person will want to conquer and possess you. If she has to compete with other, this will strengthen your influence and her desire immensely. More important than your looks or your behaviour is simply your esteem. What others consider good and desirable, can’t be bad. If nobody is interested in your, this may have a reason. Why aren’t people gathering around you? Why are you being ignored? If, however, you are popular, you will be loved by even more people and the attraction will spread like wild-fire.
You can increase your esteem further, if you prefer the company of people who compliment your attributes and characteristics, simply because they do not possess these qualities that you have. Do not be afraid to present your conquest to potential rivals. For this game select somewhat helpless or weaker people. In direct comparison you will look more valuable and desirable and further enhance your esteem. In such situations your chosen partner will practically cling to you.
Another method that should not be underestimated is the occasional retreat. Your esteem will rise if you are not constantly present and available. Everything that is always and easily available will eventually become boring. A person is more inclined to turn to the new and interesting, whereas a person which occasionally holds us at an arm’s length, can effectively evoke desire and longing.
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