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Break-up the relationship
How to break up a relationship correctly
Strictly from the biological point of view it is against human nature to maintain a lasting relationship with the same person in form of a partnership. Nevertheless, most people wish to have a steady relationship, and strive to achieve this all life long. If for any reason it should be impossible to continue to maintain a partnership to the advantage of both partners, a break up would be recommended, however the process should be thought out carefully. Out of fear of confrontations and hurting the partner many people hide their intentions to break up the relationship for a long time and shy away from confronting this topic.
If it is your intention to hurt your partner as little as possible, it is recommended to strive for a clear, fast and as painless a separation as possible. First of all you must be sure if you really want to leave your partner. Certain relationship problems are part of almost all everyday life of a partnership and should be taken into consideration by both partners. Bear in mind that there are no trouble free relationships. It is also quite natural that we often choose the wrong partner. Only with time do we realise how great the differences are, and that in the long run we will not be happy in this mismatched union. The feeling of guilt or pity should not be the motivation to carry on with the relationship, and the better alternative is to end it. Even the partner who is still in love will not find happiness in such a stale relationship.
If the chemistry is simply not right, the break-up is the best alternative. Be aware that certain types of people just are not suited for each other. Once you have accepted this fact you will find it easier to break up the relationship.
Once you have made up your mind to leave your partner for good, then proceed with honesty and explain the reasons in detail which you feel have led to the failure of the relationship. Try to have a direct and, as far as possible, a calm discussion. Do not convey this message through a third party or by means of impersonal communication means. After all you would like to give your former partner helpful suggestions for the future. Particularly if you don’t wish to have any future contact with your former partner, you must be sure to create clear conditions. False hopes or inaccurate statements during the break-up leave a lot of unanswered questions. "Why am I being dumped?" - "Does he or she have a new partner?" or "Is it worth fighting for the relationship?"
Be sure to make a clean break from the failing relationship and cause as little pain as possible. It has been observed that a constructive honesty caused the least subsequent problems, and enabled many open question to be cleared beforehand, and thus help the partner to move on.
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